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Late last night, I texted my mother and informed her that my sperm donor was Rick. I thanked her for her assistance, as it really saved me a lot of trouble. I didn't get a reply until this morning.

"I had planned to talk with you about all of this once my grief had lifted some with the loss of my sister. I can tell you that I do not know who the person is that you are talking about. I have never seen or talked with them. Unfortunately, once you make up your mind about something it's a done deal."

The response I wanted to send was "Well mom, maybe you never saw him or spoke to him, but you sure as shit banged him," but I chose to bite my tongue. Instead I chose to point out that DNA doesn't lie, that she wasn't grieving a month ago when I first asked her, and that she needs to learn to communicate better because it's hard for me to translate "we can talk about this later" from fucking silence.

"I was just as shocked about all of this as you were. And, I don't do well when people try to bully me, which you were doing."

Sorry snowflake. "Who is my biological father?" is not bullying. Nice try.

I'm certain that once her grief has lifted, there will be further reason to not discuss the matter.

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